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"gentlemen,
Let me share my experience. I have been married to my wife for 10 years and I have known her for 15. I have been playing games almost as far back as I can remember and grew up on the 1st generation of consoles and PCs (Apples, Amigas, Commodores etc).
When I first met my wife she had no interest in gaming. However she realised it was a big part of my life and something I talked passionately about. My intention was never to "convert" her. But she would ask questions and I would explain things. She eventually got sucked into playing. At first she would watch me play Red Alert or CnC against my friends (over a modem no-less) and just give advice and share my victories and defeats. Eventually she started playing herself against my friends and winning.
Other games we played together and she enjoyed were the Baldur's Gate series (her favourite game), the Diablo series (looking forward to the new one), the Age of ... series and lots of MMOs. Even though we have played DAoC. CoH and WoW together our fondest memories are of EQ. This was before we had kids and could commit to the hard-core game culture required to advance in EQ. For example spending 3 days straight without sleep to get 2 pairs of J-boots, waking up at 0400 everyday for a week to kill a rare named in Kedge Keep for some loot. Stuff we cant do anymore (we play WoW very causally) but still memory making moments.
When I asked her years later why she got into games she told me that she loved me, it was clearly something I was passionate about and so wanted to give it a try. The thing that pushed her from "doing it for me" to "enjoying it as a hobby herself" was the fact that I spent a lot of time and effort explaining things to her. She also loves playing with me. Its a like a team building exercise and we have lots of memories of things working out in game (for example "hail Mary" moments) purely because we were husband and wife and were so insync we responded instinctively to each other without communciation. Plus its nice being in the same room as the main-healer :)
The lesson? Don't look for a "gamer girl" look for someone who loves you (and you her) to the point you are willing to try things together without rejecting them out of hand. I have many friends whose wives totally dismiss and disdain gaming and that has led to misery for the gamer guy in that relationship. If your gf cant even tolerate gaming and gaming is important to you then drop her... its your only chance.
I cant think of anything sexier than a wife who loves gaming (or shares any hobby with her husba"
Tuesday, August 04, 2009
